If you made it through Part 1 and you’re still here, something in you is being very brave. That matters. Not as a compliment. As information. The part of you that stayed is the part we’re working with now. I’ve been here myself for long, torturing years. Drifting. Getting mad. Getting desperate. Getting tired. What […]
The mind that created the problem is the mind being asked to solve it. This is why nothing has worked. Not because you haven’t tried hard enough, found the right method, or met the right teacher. Because every method, every teacher, every moment of genuine insight gets handed to the same system that built the
Avoidant attachment is a relational style that forms early, usually in environments where emotional needs were consistently met with distance, dismissal, or unpredictability. When a child learns that expressing a need leads to rejection, or that vulnerability invites punishment rather than comfort, the psyche adapts. It builds a structure around self-sufficiency. It learns to need
The moment before Before anything else, there is a question underneath every apology that most people never ask out loud. Not how do I say this correctly or will they forgive me. The real question is: do I still want to be in this relationship? And do I want it to be healthy? Because a
He came in frustrated. Not the loud, explosive kind of frustrated. The quiet, contained kind that has been living in someone’s chest for years without a proper name. “I’m just not that sharp. I miss things. People have to explain things twice. If I can’t keep up, what use am I to anyone?” He said
There’s a foundational wound underneath emotional pain. It happened before you had language for it, before you understood what was happening. It was the moment – or series of moments – when you learned that being yourself wasn’t safe. That your realness, your needs, your feelings, your wants, your very existence as you actually were…
From day one, as humans, we are going through stages and chapters of development and the developmental stages that we can successfully complete open us up to some new levels of developmental stages. When, on the other hand, we have not successfully completed a certain stage of development, we perpetually come back to it in
Huge amounts of data is handled and processed through our nervous system and that vast amount of data ultimately becomes the states, behaviors and emotions that we experience and we call that reality. An external event enters our experience by way of the five senses: the things that we see, the things that we hear,
We’ve all heard about what has, unfortunately, become a catch-phrase – CREATE YOUR REALITY. Well, how do you do that, practically speaking? First, you need to focus on the outcome you want to achieve. For most people, some of the most common pillars of a desired outcome are: Wealth Health Relationships Purpose As soon as
The brain likes to just go wherever it wants, it enjoys drama, it enjoys all the distracting thoughts that actually keep us from focussing. Our brain is constantly trying to distract us and it’s constantly trying to shift our attention away from clarity and focus. Focusing actually allows us to develop the skill to control