When we’re talking about mental health disorders, it’s not unusual that we run into Substance Use Disorders and, even if we don’t fully understand how these work, we generally understand their consequences. An “addict” is usually seen as someone who starts using substances and, at some point, because of some changes to brain chemistry and […]
Please take a moment (or more) to reflect upon the following affirmations you might hold as your core beliefs. Please consider them as a continuum over your entire life, not just in the moment. Look for ways in which holding these beliefs serve you. I know this might sound uncomfortable, but just do an exercise
What does it mean to judge? To judge means to apply a personal meaning on a subject or a matter. Judging is embedded in humans as a species. The quality of our ability to judge, in many ways, determines the quality of our lives. Think about how handy it is to correctly judge the distance
Living in a state of mind that stems from emotional trauma is dysfunctional and unhealthy and it impacts our whole view of how we are orienting to relationship and how we’re showing up in relationship and that, most importantly, breeds suffering, pain, depression and constant unfulfillment. If we enter a relationship through attachment trauma, where
There seems to be a fascination in humans, similar to a stubborn program bug, that makes people unwilling, unable and/or unsuccessful in acknowledging patterns that are not bringing them what they seemingly want. It seems to be too painful for people to just stop and become clear about how it is that they are bringing
This is not for everyone. If your life is manageable, if the discomfort you carry is background noise rather than a constant presence, this will probably feel extreme. That is fine. You can put it down. But if you have been living with a particular kind of suffering for years, something that has not resolved,
There is no attracting something. There is only creating something. And what you are creating is not chosen freely. It is generated by a system of patterns, emotional and mental, that has one primary function: to reproduce what it already knows. Patterns are not oriented toward healing or growth. They are oriented toward safety. And
In meditation, something becomes visible that is difficult to name at first. The body is not neutral. It is not resting in stillness. It is reaching. Quietly, insistently, it leans toward something. And when you stay with it long enough to see what it is leaning toward, you realize it is reaching for fear. For
In our childhood, something has occurred that made our body feel a “hormone-like” shot (adrenaline, serotonin, dopamine, cortisol, etc) that was unknown to us until then and that we felt uncomfortable and potentially dangerous as a result of being unknown. I am also thinking this is a very personal wound that we “recognize from past
Any problem that may arise in your life is a signal that you have the mastery, the skills and the strength to overcome it. And then you might ask yourself why can’t you? Why do you seem to be or to feel so powerless in front of it? What keeps the problem separated from its