I have to say, rejection is, arguably, the most electrically charged core wound of the human psyche. Through reading this article, you might notice that I myself have been exposed to this quite dramatically and that there is a flavour of pain lingering in the lines that follow… Before I begin, I want to state […]
What does it mean to judge? To judge means to apply a personal meaning on a subject or a matter. Judging is embedded in humans as a species. The quality of our ability to judge, in many ways, determines the quality of our lives. Think about how handy it is to correctly judge the distance
Living in a state of mind that stems from emotional trauma is dysfunctional and unhealthy and it impacts our whole view of how we are orienting to relationship and how we’re showing up in relationship and that, most importantly, breeds suffering, pain, depression and constant unfulfillment. If we enter a relationship through attachment trauma, where
Normal human brain function is to grief and then let go of something that has ended. There is a normal, healthy grieving process that takes place subsequent to any type of death – whether it is a person that died or a relationship or circumstance that has ended. Jumping out the wagon of this normalcy,
How to Heal Co-dependency I wrote about two types of attachment style in my previous posts and that’s all nice and dandy. Now what? What do you do if you are one of the types in a relationship to the other? As with anything else, the key is awareness. Awareness of what? Each individual has to
If the avoidant avoids, the anxious preoccupied chooses a partner that is forever on the verge of leaving them or treat them inconsistently. You’ll remember from my previous post that the dismissive tends to thrive in these hot/cold relationships, where they constantly withdraw from a partner who’s about to come too close for comfort. Well,
Have you ever had someone telling you: “I’m fine, everything is perfectly fine”, and yet, their life seems to look like a battlefield that never ever ends? From my current perspective and understanding of life, emotional unavailability seems to almost be a default in human beings, whether it is lived as a dismissive/avoidant or as
There seems to be a fascination in humans, similar to a stubborn program bug, that makes people unwilling, unable and/or unsuccessful in acknowledging patterns that are not bringing them what they seemingly want. It seems to be too painful for people to just stop and become clear about how it is that they are bringing
Let’s say you are a single woman and you meet a guy. Let’s assume you are attracted by this guy. What is attraction really? Some instinctual part of your brain is going to communicate to you that you and this guy can create something unique – usually, it is a child, but it can be
It’s pleasant outside. If you go to the park, you’re going to see a lot of moms proudly walking their baby in his pushchair. If you look at the baby, let’s say it’s a baby boy, he is literally scanning his mother’s body language, with a particular emphasis on the face. In the first months